I’ve recently had the opportunity to inventory some family heirlooms that have been stored at my grandparents home for decades. Among the items I unwrapped were stems of delicate crystal my great-grandmother received for her wedding (circa 1899) which made me so happy. I have several stems at my house but one was broken a few years ago and I had no idea more existed. The discovery was a most happy surprise.
I brought those goblets home with me to live with their kin and I left several interesting pieces of crystal and china on display at their home. Although they passed away in the 1990s (when they were in their 90s), my maternal grandparents left their house to my parents and it has become a vacation home of sorts for family and friends. Finding treasures from generations past really linked me to my heritage and me think about things young couples can acquire together that will start their own home and legacy. Here’s a list of ten things that should be on everyone’s registry.
These first three items are the Holy Trinity of wedding gifts. Times have changed and entertaining has taken a casual turn but every proper home needs china dinnerware, crystal stemware and sterling silver flatware (I had my silver pattern picked out when I was 8 years old). Not only do these items make holiday tables sparkle but they elevate everyday life.
My paternal grandmother has used her sterling and china everyday her entire life (she just turned 101) and it’s always made a simple dish of ice cream or casual lunch seem special. There is no reason to reserve your formal pieces for formal occasions. Sure a few pieces will break and need to be replaced here and there but life is short. Use the good stuff.
4. A Mixer
A good mixer is the single best thing you can acquire to start your kitchen appliance collection. Bread can be toasted in the oven, coffee can be picked up at Starbucks but a heavy-duty mixer will do a lot more than mix cake batter. It can blend fresh juice, mix the perfect mashed veggies, whip up baby food and you can add attachments over time that will master a number of cooking tasks.
5. Single Old Fashioned Glasses
Crystal or glass, a single old-fashioned glass is the best vessel to start the proper bar. Except wine or champagne, it will elegantly hold any number of drinks your guests might request from nearly any cocktail to a simple club soda or soft drink. The next glass to acquire is a double old-fashioned glass that can be used for water, iced tea, lemonade as well as taller cocktails.
6. Champagne Flutes
Champagne requires a flute so even if your crystal stemware collection doesn’t include flutes when you’re stating out, make sure you have some inexpensive flutes among your barware. You can pick up a set at IKEA for about $10.00 and keep them on hand until you invest in pieces that match your crystal stemware. Keeping glasses crystal clear by hand washing and hand drying them will make them sparkle and look more expensive.
7. Beautiful Guest Towels
Even if you’re young and still use your college towels in your own bathroom (I think I had been married at least ten years before I discarded the college bath towels that had my name printed on them – insharpie.) We started out using them in our bathroom, then as make-shift painting tarps and finally, rags. Make sure you display lovely guest towels in your guest bath and have a couple of sets of decent towels for any over-nighters.
8. A Butter Dish
A pretty butter dish is a must for a formal table, makes the kitchen table pretty and looks nice when you open the fridge too. There are lots of inexpensive varieties out there if you don’t receive a crystal or china butter dish as a wedding gift.
9. Good Salt & Pepper Shakers
For large formal dinners, my mother sets her table with individual, crystal salt and pepper at each setting. For a table up to six guests, one set in sufficient but if you are expecting more, a set at each end of the table is optimum.
10. Mixing Bowls, Measuring Spoons, Tea Towels…
Every gracious bride/groom; bride/bride; groom/groom should include inexpensive staples on a wedding registry. Not every guest is in the financial position to send a place setting or sterling serving piece.
There has been an attitude among marrying couples that expects a wedding gifts financially on par with the cost of a guest’s attendance at the wedding. This philosophy shows nothing but entitlement and a huge lack of manners. If you spend $300 per person on your festivities and hope every gift will cover that cost is absurd.
Make sure you register for inexpensive everyday things like casual placements, cookbooks, everyday coffee mugs, wooden spoons. A guest on a budget will appreciate the opportunity to purchase something you want that won’t break the bank.